In my opinion, most players like the following mods:
Coins
Advanced Trading
Safe Zones
Custom Additions like weapons and vehicles
All and additional mods can be found on the Epoch website.
Pinned tutorials in arma 2 forums should work fine for tools you would need. Wastelands is not intended to be edited. I'm not saying that it can't be done but there are very few mods that will actually work with wastelands. Most if not all mods can be found on the armaholic website.
That usually means that your mod is not correct on the client side. If you feel it's the server, simply change the map and change it back to what you originally had. Remember to let the page refresh. If you made changes, save your files. If that doesn't work you could change locations and then back. After all of that and it still doesn't work then you could submit a support ticket.
Not too sure about that stuff. Wiping a server doesn't really need a support ticket. Just simply change the map which wipes your server then change it back to the map you want. Changing locations does the same thing.
What exactly are you trying to do with the zombies? Nerf doesn't give detail. Do you want faster, slower, harder hitting? Messing around with zombies isn't that easy.