everytime i try to play my server i have trouble connecting to it. either it starts and loads but as soon as it gets in game it shows the game for a second then goes blank and goes back to the main lobby or it just says it cant connect to host. when i do manage to get on i have to restart the server then wait like an hour or so then sometimes it'll let me in without a problem. i have my control panel set to auto update it says its on the current version of patch. how can i fix this so i can play