if it happens again, all I had to do was use the quit command in-game, and it was able to shut down the server, so I could restart....Even though there was a fix might help somebody for future reference
I am having a big problem, I was adjusting character stats and levels in the control panel, and now my server wont restart, or stop, or anything....I am still able to access it, but I really need to restart...thanks for the help