Noriel Sylvire

Seeing as the game was free on epic games I went ahead and bought EVERYTHING, season pass, genesis season pass, everything, and I also rented a small server for my gf and I. I've checked the "Force Epic" and crossplay option so that we can play together, we both have the Epic Games version, not the steam version, so we do not own a Steam copy of the game. When I hit save and restar, it goes online and loading, but it doesn't show up in the servers list (I'm looking in the unofficial servers list), it jsut doesn't show up so we can't join in. Also, when I hit launch it goes "Server not responding", it never says "Ready" as in the screenshot they show in the wiki. Is there a way we can make this work? Am I missing anything? Thank you in advance, we're currently both playing in singleplayer as we want no other players around.