Originally this post was a plea for help as I was unable to find my server that i had purchased when searching through the ARMA3 Launcher, Survival Launcher and the ARMA 3 Dashboard. Over the past few days, through trial and error, I have found information that isnt really posted anywhere for new server owners and is only found with a bit of digging. Lets start with the simplest. In order to find your server within the ARMA 3 Launchers lists, you have to add it manually through their website.
http://a3.launcher.eu/check
Once there, take your Servers IP address and add +1 to the Port. If successful, It can take 30 minutes to appear.
If not, check your servers launch parameters and remove any "-Servermods@ExileServer..." as it will not find your server
Now im running into an issue with the exile server stuck on the Arma 3 Apex screen. Once i fix that i'll post my steps so that others have something to follow.